You're still with me? I am amazed. There were quite a few
letters in Part 1 and there are even more in Part 2! I don't know
where the week wentä
"Hey Angie...we sat together on the plane to Phoenix.
I'm the longhaired guy reading Faust. I had just caught
a terrible cold (my apologies for the horrible snorting
noises and hot sweaty handshake), so I'm afraid I was not
very talkative. What a shame...after reading a bit of your
site, I'm sure we could have had an entertaining discussion.
I live in Big Sur (as I mentioned) with my boyfriend who is a
very gifted computer geek...very big brain (you know what
they say about big brains...)I do Visual Merchandising to pay
the bills, but Art is where my training lies, and I'm just
now finding the motivation to get off my ass and start producing some. Three dimensional...incorporate my years of
display with it...mixed media, found objects, architectural
elements. Themes inspired by nature, the super natural, sex,
and the surreal. Bisexual people are by far the sexiest people
around...I'm sorry that we didn't have a chance to delve into the
subject in person. Maybe next time. Personally, I tend to find
men more sexually attractive, but there have definitely been
women that have stirred my desire. I find that I'm in a very
odd place...I don't identify with the gay culture, and
effeminate men don't do anything for me. It's not easy finding masculine gay men...that's why those rare bisexual guys
are such a treat when you discover them! Women on the other
hand, have got to have an open mind, and a free sexual spirit
to get my attention...and sadly, they too are few and far
between. Sex with a woman is such a different game...the
soft skin, the smell of her sweat is fresh and sweet, her
kiss is soft and teasing...so totally different from sex with
another male. But given the right girl...it can be a blissful
experience. Well, shit! I haven't had much trouble opening up to
you after one brief meeting...hope this is not too much info, I'm
just indulging myself in what seems to be an open arena...
Hedonism is not dead, just lying low. Hope all is well with you.
It was lovely to hear from you Evan. Thank you for taking the
time to write. Yeah, a big brain will do it any time. I am sure
you are living in bliss; Big Sur is so beautiful.
"I would love to chat with You, but if that is OK off line leaving
each other messages because I can't go too often on line. Rada"
"Well Angie I have been talking to this girl for about three weeks
now and to top it off I met her over the net. We have now gone to
the movies, the beach and a WNBA game together I love her
company and I am soon going to have sex with her having sex
with women is so erotic for I love especially just eating them and
caressing them, oh I forgot yeah I have a man but he is just into
me so I have my fun just with the ladies though. hey write back
baby love Isis"
"I have a question. I have a male friend whose sexual preference
is males, but he's telling me he doesn't feel like a man or a
woman and doesn't feel in between either. Is his problem his
sexual identity? He says he doesn't know where he fits in. jude"
It sounds like the normal state of confusion! But then chaos is
a prerequisite to living, isn't it? We try to make order only to
have the wind of external events blow away the paperwork and
leave us standing facing the evidence trying to rationalize the
confusion of life. It's important not to pay it too much mind.
"I have a friend, who is an attractive woman and a lesbian. She
always asks me if I'd like to try being with a girl. I am a
heterosexual, and until now I have never considered having a
lesbian relationship. Would it be wrong of me to assume that
this girl just wants a sexual encounter with me. What if she
wants a relationship? I really don't think I want a relationship.
On the other hand, I am curious. Can you give me some insight?
I think you've got the situation nailed down. Remember
Pandora's box, open that sucker and all kinds of changes in
your life may ensue. It may be fantastic, it may be something
you'd rather never have experienced, the inevitable
conundrum. What to do?
Put under idea for special birthday edition! "Hey Ang, Did you
ever think of having a photo album? I know you have pics of you
in every segment, but it might be a good idea to have one big
photo album. Just an idea! Take good care. Jade"
Great idea, I'll get right on it!
"Okay Angie...I'm back. I left you a brief message earlier...and
THEN went and read some of the other postings. And more
importantly...your responses. YOU are a bright lady...not that
you needed ME to tell you that. I am a 33 years old. I'm a
Southern woman, raised in the Bible Belt by a middle-class
family. I knew from the time I was young that I was...different. I
was always a "tomboy"...I didn't like typical female things. I
didn't want dolls...I wanted a motorcycle for Christmas. I never
got what I wanted for Christmas...because I was eternally asking
for things like science kits, basketballs, etc. and continually
received Barbie dolls, watches, etc. My mother tried to curl me
hair, and we'd fight. You get the idea. I had crushes on various
fellows growing up. But I also tended to be "too committed" to my
friends There are not an abundance of almost 19 year old
virgins. Long and short...we fell in love...and he became my first
lover. All my High School years, I had struggled with feelings
that I couldn't, or wouldn't understand. I knew that I had
"feelings" for women. Strong feelings...more emotional than
sexual really...because as I've said, that part of me was "shut
down". But I suspected something was up. I did not believe
there was such a thing as "bisexual"...I had struggled with
whether or not I was gay. And when I fell for this man...I was so
elated...because not only did I love him...but I thought "I am not
gay! I'm okay!" I married him. He taught me everything I knew
about sex. And after a couple of years...I began to have dreams
about my friend back in High School. And I began to realize that
I had been in love with her. Duh. And I was confused. I started
to drink a lot. My husband, meanwhile, was not having good
success with his music, and was generally not moving forward
like he should be. He smoked an enormous amount of
weed...and didn't work. I supported him entirely. He escaped
from him personal failures in video games, TV, and drugs. I
gained a ton of weight...not wanting him to touch me. I was
freaked out. So...I am becoming "openly bisexual" for the first
time in my life at 33. I have still never had sex with anyone in
my life except my husband. We have not done our paperwork
yet. I am still trying to get used to not having rings on my ring
finger. And I am absolutely going insane wanting to make love to
this lovely young woman in Canada...and she does not care at
all that I am 15 years older than she is. She and I...we are
within one inch and 7 lbs of being the exact same size...we both
love guitar...camping...and so many other things. We like the
same clothes. WE write fantasies for one another...fantasies of
us...and they are wonderful. She spins such tales of making
love to me...full of tenderness, love, adoration...and a bit of
sauciness too! She is enticingly aggressive. She is...perfect. My
poor husband is devastated and doing badly. And I feel bad
about that...but know that I have done the right thing. HE will get
over it in time...and isn't that better than living with a woman he
really doesn't know, that isn't happy, and loves someone else?
So that is my story...believe it or not...its been abbreviated a lot! I
am BISEXUAL and madly in love with a delightful young woman
that I cannot have for the moment. I am a single adult for the first
time in my entire life. I have promised her that I will wait for
her...she wants to be my first woman. And since she wants to
give me her innocence...it is the least that I can give her. I just
thought...from the vibe I get from your webpage...that YOU would
enjoy hearing this story. A real life story of a woman who is
finding herself finally. It's taken one hell of a lot of courage to do
what I've done in the past month. Courage, or insanity...one or
the other. I have one question for you...do you believe in
Destiny? Yes I do. But destiny is not fixed. One can sway
destiny with your will; destiny is the outcome of your broader
vision of your life, I think. That's just my opinion. In my life, I
have taken part in many odd experiments. I believed that I
could be married to somebody and each of us do whatever we
liked. It didn't work because I didn't realize that it was
marriage that didn't work for me not the premise of doing what
I wanted. I believe in freedom of expression and information.
By so doing I am alienated from corporate America and unable
to reap the benefits. What do I know? All these experiments;
the horse business, the entertainment game. They have
allowed me to have great experiences and mental stimulation.
Is that destiny? The opportunities must be destined. Personal
choice decides whether we pursue the destiny offered or the
path that we follow.
"Mrs. Bowie I am a friendly to all heterosexual male. Yet I am
skeptical of bisexuality. I am not convinced that it is a sexual
orientation. I believe it is a simple confused state in a hetero or
homo life, or more often it is simply a man's fantasy of having 2
women at once. Leading women to do more experimentation.
Anyway I am friendly to all but I have to be honest about the
majority of bisexuals I have encountered."
I think you're about right as far as men's fantasies are
concerned. There seems to be a problem in many of these
correspondents minds that bisexual implies multiple partners.
It does not. One can be monogamous and at different times in
your life be monogamous with different genders.
"Hi Angie, Here's a link to a picture I took with you in 1994
http://www.geocities.com/crawfordgirl/meetstars.html Also, do
you have any of your TV Appearances from the 70's on video? I
have a video taped performance of you with Mick Karn from UK
TV from the early 80's - you're reading poetry and he's playing
bass guitar. It's very cool. Cheers Ang! Lisa/Gypp"
Yes, I do have a few but have not looked through all the videos
yet to see which ones. I've added it to my to-do list
"Hi angie, many years have passed since I discovered my
sexuality and I can honestly say it was because of you and your
husband at the time that my life changed. it was you who taught
me not to be afraid and stand up for myself (which in a mining
village in the north of England wasn't easy!!!)But I didn't! Thank
you so much angie my heart goes out to you and i hope life gives
to you what YOU gave to me which is eternal happiness all my
Hey Alan, lovely to hear from you. After "The Full Monty", my
own particular affection for English Mining Towns is very big.
Being the daughter of a mining engineer, I know what you
"Hi Angela, I like your website, it is a good representation of us
bisexuals. I also think that you look very attractive in the
pictures that you have put on your website. Anyways, keep on
spreading the word on bisexuality and may you continue to have
sexual freedom. Sincerely, Eric S."
"this sight is fantastic, but i hope that you didn't put that daring
photos here because student, like me, drops by for an article
about the youth's homosexuals and bisexuals and then we'll just
see those kind of picture? that isn't very nice, ange. Madeline"
"Hi Angela, I too am a bisexual Christian man Seeking new
Friends, I own some Debt Free Land, just West of Phoenix is a
Nude Campsite located southeast of Blythe, CA along the
Colorado River get off Interstate Ten at Errenberg Off Ramp I'm
hoping to open it up as a Retreat or Bisexuals, if anyone is
interested, e mail me Nathan @ Kingdomtrust@aol.com"
"Very interesting. Definitely the most informative and thorough
information that I've found on being Two-Spirited. Thank you for
putting this together and making it available to the community."
"I'm very happy to have finally found your website. . .Your
lecture is both interesting and educational. For me, my life has
been very tough. At a young age I always knew that I was
different; I just didn't know why. By the time I was about 16, I
finally discovered that I was bisexual- and that there were many
other people in the world just like me. Unfortunately, I have been
too frightened to do anything about my feelings. I have had
sexual relations with men, but too afraid to do anything with a
woman. I have really short hair, but other than that- I am
very feminine. But for some reason, bi and gay women have
often been attracted to me. Can they tell what I am, without me
saying a thing? I think it is a type of energy about me that I let
off. I am still attracted to both men and women; but I am too timid
to do anything about my feelings. I wish I were more brave . . .
Sometimes I feel that if I wait too long, I will be too old to enjoy my
bisexuality; getting myself stuck in a boring marriage or
something. What do you think I should do? My primary
concerns are with STD's and my family's objections to an
alternative lifestyle. I feel like I can't really be me- until I
investigate my feelings . . . .Baby gurl"
"How does it feel when you have sex with another woman. and
what do you do?".
My thanks to Marty Klein again who has helped me with
answers I didn't have! In "Ask me Anything", he answers your
question on page 226. "Exactly how do homosexuals have sex?
The same way straight people do; by kissing, hugging, smiling,
rubbing, and putting their fingers, mouths and genitals
wherever it feels good."
"Hello! I have just read your lecture, and enjoyed it very much.
I don't know whether it is as a result of gradual shift in the
friends I have, but over the last two years or so, there really
seems to be an increase in the number of truly bi people (at least
where I am - Brisbane, Australia!). I have known plenty of bi girls
for quite some time, and one or two bi guys, but most of the other
people one encountered who claimed to be bi were what we have
termed 'promosexuals' - i.e. guys or girls who would dance with
each other or kiss at parties - but only if they were completely
certain that someone was watching, and that it was still the 'cool'
thing to do (I don't have a problem with this, really, but it can be
bloody funny sometimes). But in the last two years... I now
know two couples (pairs of guys) where one half of the couple
defines his sexuality as "I am attracted to girls....and James"
(Stephen, in the second couple). I also have a couple of friends,
girls, where this is the case ("boys...and Jillianne"). I don't have
any problem with this, either, but it does seem to piss lots of
people off in some way (not that many of them say so to my
friends' faces); the straight and gay people I know in the usual
way ("Bi now, gay later", or "I don't see why they can't make up
their minds"), and also to annoy some of the bi people I know
("straight AND JILLIANNE?? Who does she think she's kidding?
She's bi!"). What do you think? I don't know how I'd accurately
describe myself (I try to avoid doing so generally, unless asked).
I have been attracted to, been involved with, and slept with guys
and girls, but I think I'm probably 'attracted to guys
generally....and special girls (who seem to be sent along by the
cosmos, just when I think I've finally sorted things out and
proved to myself that I'm gay...!). I am fortunate in some
ways - in so many parts of my life, what I have felt/wanted to
do/been interested in has been wildly at variance with what has
been set down as 'normal' ('normal'?? What the hell is that??) - I
am now quite used to it. I have plenty of friends who don't see
any of these things as problems; if I encounter people who seem
genuinely disgusted/appalled/'morally' repelled it really is quite
a shock; one forgets that such attitudes exist. I do think people's
attitudes are, for the most part, changing. I am sure that there
will always be a chunk of the world's population who cling to
ludicrous, out-dated bigotry (some people still firmly believe the
earth to be flat...), but I do think these will slip further and
further into total irrelevance. Fingers crossed. I definitely think
the entire process would be speeded along if more people in the
public eye were to make less of an effort to conceal these things;
behaving as though they were not there. Hollywood is bursting
at the seams with people who are not heterosexual - I know some
of these are concerned that (a) audiences will not be able to take
an actor known to be gay/bi seriously in straight roles (but we
are expected to swallow 'straight' actors playing gay/bi roles
with no problem), (b) that they will suffer organised/disorganised
boycotts of their performances by lunatic fundamentalists, but
BLOODY HELL - these things have to start somewhere! What is
the best course of action when confronted with backwards and
illogical prejudices/misconceptions limiting one's life in some
way? Happily bow to them, and constrict one's life to meet the
ideas of creatures less evolved than oneself? Like hell.
Such is nothing more than a certain recipe for stagnation. I have
never understood why one must fear or hate what one does not
understand. I should think it would be, generally, more sensible
to CRAWL OUT OF ONE'S LITTLE BOX AND MAKE SOME
EFFORT. But what would I know - I'm not normal."
You sound very rational and logical to me. We have dispensed
with normal as a term, have we not? To be honest with you, in
all of these letters I have noticed one recurring theme and that
is a naivete of believing that a label somehow validates your
sexuality. I have attacked labeling often in reply to the letters
but your expose of the promiscuous variety of sexual labeling
to get more ass is tiring is it not?
Since the beginning of time, there have been treacherous
people who view sex as a one-way street. They get the pleasure
and it doesn't matter who it's with, what diseases are spread,
they don't tell if they have STDs, they don't tell if they have
significant relationships with other people. They just don't tell.
"Yon Cassio has a mean and hungry look." That crimped smile
is from biting their tongues not to tell the truth. Don't give it
up, tell no-one keep the secrets for the secrets will bring me
down. If you've got secrets you're subject to blackmail.
When I was 5 my dad and I had our first conversation about
blackmail. He told the story of how after WWII, when he
returned to San Francisco, my mom was waiting for him and
after a couple of weeks reunion they were talking about the 6
years they had been apart. My mother and brother had to
cancel their plans to sail to Manila and join my father in
Baguio. The bombing of Pearl Harbor plunged the U.S. into
WWII finally. All travel plans were canceled and there was no
commercial shipping due to the danger of the enemy's navies
and air force attacks.
My mom said, "It's probably a good thing
we didn't get there. We might have been captured and put into
a concentration camp."
My father looked at her and nodded,
"yes, that would have been unfortunate."
"Would you have rescued us?"
"No, too much was riding on the allies winning the war. I could
not have jeopardized what had to be done and rescuing anyone
would have alerted the Japs to our whereabouts. You'd have
been on your own."
"They might have killed us."
"Well, I hope you would have taken as many of them with you
as you fought to the death."
This story is the reason I am so honest. If there are no secrets
you can't be blackmailed and I have an anathema about being
free. I have to be free. Sounds like you and I feel the same way.
Not necessarily to do anything but free in case you suddenly
decided that you wanted to. My dad was free to be a hero
because there was nothing to stop him. Mom and Sonny were
not in the Philippines and my dad was never caught!
"Just a brief note.... Am enjoying your book at the moment. Just
did a random search on the net and came up with your website --
gorgeous photo! I ran into Mr. Jones/Bowie a few months ago,
who was for some reason standing in front of the Angelika here
in New York. I had to say *something* (like every other nitwit) to
this person who had given me so much music during my
adolescence, so I told him "I admire your work very much." He
just smiled, almost wistfully, and looked down and very quietly
said "Thank you," for all the world as if he was shy. Never mind
that I wanted to demand my money back for "Hours"! Still, he
had many moments of genius and that's no small thing. Thank
you for your insights in "Passes." Hope all's well with you. By
the way, do you still perform, and ever in New York? Kind
Regards, Seth Pybas"
Should be there sometime this year, singing and maybe some
other performances. I'll keep y'all posted. You guys be nice to
him, he's a good guy. I liked "Hours". You didn't like it? I could
relate to the first 4 tracks. They meant something to me.
"Dear Angie! I'm a Bisexual, It took me some time to realize it. I'm
16 and I have a girlfriend. The most amazing thing is that it's my
first sexual experience ever. Your words warmed me up and
made me feel confident. Thank you. Write me, if you can.
Love, sayonara, Lady Byron"
"I love what you wrote I have been bi since I was 21 when was
she was my first and now am 37 but still love women but cant
get any. Have tried every thing from the bars to the singles line
and come home lonely. I find women very beautiful and soft have
went to swinger parties. That's a joke in itself because the men
want to be in on it but the guy I am with is very understanding
and lets me be with women with out wanting to join in wish all
men could be like that I am also a nudist and love that life style
cause its let you be who you are and not hide behind the clothing
that we wear its a nice life style and very relaxing thanks for
your comment on being bi ps have been rejected so much don't
feel like trying to get a woman any more at least if i look at them
they cant reject me right? love always robin"
"Great article. What a beautiful person you are. Thank you for
writing this strictly to help the rest of us. i have felt this way
since I was 14 (I'm now 31) and I'm only beginning to understand
and accept the ins and outs of bisexuality. Thanks for living
your life and caring enough to tell us about it. The historical
research was great too. Please carry on! Ted"
Who's sex object?
"Won't you send me some pictures. So I can get hard off them.
No! If I'm not there to enjoy it, f--- you! I'm being cheeky, I'm
sorry. Sometimes the e-mails are so cryptic that I have to tell
the truth. Why would I send you pictures to get you off, on my
dime? Think what you ask for, big boy!
"I thought what you wrote was very interesting and I would like
to hear from you. I would enjoy the following things done to me.
Have your mouth up and down my body and your fingers inside
me making me have an orgasm. Your breasts against me. Me
tickling you with my tongue and you doing the same
to me. I would really like to do 69 with you . Just seeing your
picture is getting me all wet and hot thinking about you. You
seem to have a great body- I to have a great body and I am very
physically fit. Right know I am masturbating thinking about you.
Please write to me soon. I am very tasty and I would love to hear
from you. idle9"
Whoa there! I don't remember asking you to be quite so
"Have a wonderful month and if it's not FUN, DON'T DO IT!!!!" I
love this quote you put at the end of your June installment Angie!
Soooooooo true, I needed to be reminded of that. I've been hard
on myself these past few months (STRESS!) and that quote made
my day. Good info on Cyprus, I did go to Greece in April and that
was incredible. Cyprus I really want to visit -- Cyprus, Turkey
and Egypt. Thanks for answering all of my questions in your
June issue (I'm Lisa by the way). A few more thoughts...
Have you been back to London to visit the places you used to live
in the 60's and 70's? Are any of them still standing? Too bad
Haddon Hall was torn down. Also, what do you do when you
"scare yourself"? Lately I've been having these thoughts of doom
and gloom (like "what if I get this horrible disease?" etc) and was
wondering if you've had those thoughts and what you do to
combat them. Cheers Angie, thanks for the site!"
"Dear Angie, Well I stumbled across your website by accident
and its fabulous! To be incredible honest I was surprised you
could write (I thought you would have been a kind of hanger-on
wife) Anyway i Particularly loved your piece on Cyprus (I am a
keen traveler and Cyprus is just a dream) Since you have an
Irish connection will you be writing anything on the emerald Isle
(I hope so it is a fabulous country and so "In Vogue" at the
moment!) Anyway keep this up Camille Myers."
A Christian e mailed this in response to the Bisexuality lecture:
" I usually start with Genesis 2 and Romans 1.You can
find basic answers to this question (GAY - LESBIAN) at
www.campuslife.net under "Love and Dating" or "Love, Sex &
Real Life." I would start with Genesis 1 & 2. God created Adam
and Eve, not Adam and Steve. Even Jesus quoted from Genesis
1 & 2 when asked about marriage and divorce. For more
information on this, I would recommend Ken's video "Raising
Godly Children in an Ungodly World." This will show the biblical
purpose of marriage, which is to be fruitful and multiply and to
raise godly children, neither of which can be done in a
homosexual environment. You may look up the following
passages in the Bible that speak of sexual immorality.
The one from Leviticus is the one that directly pertains
with homosexuality. Leviticus 18:22 1Kings 14:24 Galatians
:16-21 Ephesians 5:1-17 Colossians 3:1-61Thessalonians 4:3-
8 Falwell: Love the Sinner, Hate the Sin On Tuesday, I [Rev
Jerry Falwell] met with Mel White, the nation's most recognized
homosexual clergy member. Mel and I have been friends for a
long time. He edited my book, "If I Should Die Before I Wake," an
account of my pro-life efforts, in 1984. He has also penned
books for Dr. Billy Graham, Pat Robertson, and Oliver North.
I did not learn until 1991, when he openly disclosed his
homosexuality, that Mel had embraced this lifestyle. He an d his
partner, Gary Nixon, have started Soulforce, Inc., a religious
group supporting gay rights, in Laguna Beach, Calif. The
occasion of our meeting this week was because Mel believes that
my moral crusade for America could be perceived by a lunatic
fringe to be an endorsement of hostility toward homosexuals. I
have never advocated violence against any individual or group,
nor would I ever do so. And, in this meeting, I agreed that my
staff and I will be vigilant in assuring that we do not make any
statements that can be construed as sanctioning antagonism
against homosexuals. However, I want to assure my readers that
I did not, in any way, alter my steadfast commitment to preaching
that homosexuality is biblically wrong. The message of God's
Word is clear. Any sexual activity outside the heterosexual
bonds of marriage is sin. I Corinthians 7:2 tells us,
"Nevertheless, to avoid fornication, let every man have his own
wife, and let every woman have her own husband."
No matter how carefully you attempt to read between the lines of
that verse, there is no suggestion of a man taking a husband or a
woman taking a wife. I believe that God has given us
unmistakable Divine instructions for living ... and homosexuality
is not a part of it. Romans chapter 1 reveals to us an earlier time
in history when mankind manipulated Scripture in order to
worship self over the Creator. "For this cause God gave them up
unto vile affections: for even their women did change the natural
use into that which is against nature: And likewise also the men,
leaving the natural use of the woman, burned in their lust one
toward another; men with men working that which is
unseemly, and receiving in themselves that recompense of their
error which was meet." (Romans 1:26, 27) These verses require
that Christians never alter or corrupt the biblical mandate that
homosexuality is sin. At the same time, God has called me to be a
minister to my fellow man. I cannot do that from a perspective of
condemnation. And it would be wrong for me to write off Mel
White and others who have embraced this lifestyle because there
is hope for change. Michael Johnston, a former homosexual who
is now dying of AIDS-related illnesses, has traveled nationwide
to show how a relationship with Christ can wholly change one's
life. His life as "a new creature in Christ" is a living testimony to
the power of the Gospel. Therefore, I am committed to ensuring
that my message is clear. The only hope for all of us -
heterosexual or homosexual - is a life-changing relationship with
Jesus Christ. And in so saying, I will be ever mindful to preach
this message with a heart of love and not condemnation for Mel
White and other homosexuals in our nation. I continue to love Mel
and consider him a friend. He told me that he is just as
concerned about the level of hate from the homosexual
community aimed at me and other Christian leaders.
Did you learn anything from this? I learned nothing I didn't
know before and had thrown out by the age of 11.
"Hello, I could not include my name or e-mail for various
reasons. You will not be able to respond to me, but I have only
one thing to say. Please understand that this is not personal,
because I do not know you. Bisexuality is disgusting. Women
were not meant to have sex with men and other women. It is not
natural. The lifestyle you lead is abnormal and it is not
the way life was meant to be carried on. "Two-spirited" is just
bisexual's way of justifying the disgusting and abnormal things
that they do. Men were meant to be with women and women were
meant to be with men and that is that Anonymous"
That's your opinion! Fortunately in a democracy we are allowed
to voice our opinion. Point taken?
Whoever the lovely RAM from India is, I received an e mail but
no message, I am making a fuss about getting it; because I
have many Indian friends and I hope that if it was one of you;
you will e mail again and include a message!
TASTY AND SMOOTH
"Angie, What an interesting webpage you have! I was half-
expecting to read more about the cool 70s hijinx that you and
David had. However, I was pleasantly surprised to read your
very personal essay on Bisexuality. You make some very
interesting observations that I agree with but have seldom
thought about. I think you and David gave social evolution a little
nudge in the 70s. You knew who you were and didn't give a
monkey's ass what people thought: I fully support that! Matthew"
Thank you Matthew! Come and visit again soon!
"I enjoyed your article. I have immense respect for you and
David. You are absolutely beautiful. If you are ever in New
England, look me up! Cicely"
Thank you Cicely. But never say that to an actor, you never
know when they'll find themselves in your neck of the woods
and take you up on it! Thank you for your kind words.
"Dear Angie, I loved your book so much I read it 4 times before
someone broke into my place and stole only that item from the
whole house! Can you believe it? I've been an avid fan and
follower of you and David since 1975äLet's see, I'm 38 now so
that made me 13 years old at the time. Everybody used to call me
"La Bowette" at school (I'm French from Montreal, hence that
nickname). Now, I had a beautiful son last year that I named
David (nickname Davidou),,,I guess you know why. Keep up
those websites, I love them. Nico from Montreal"
Congratulations on the birth of your son, Davidou. What a
sweet letter. Je vous remercie de partager vos souvenirs at
venez visiter autant que vous voulez. Comme ca, j'ai quelqu'un
avec qui je peux utiliser mon Francais. Je ne peux pas trouver
la chose qui me laisse ecrire avec les accents etc en francais. Il
faut que je demande a mon boyfriend do trouver cette "tool"
Vous voyez, je parle "Franglais" avec vous!!!!!
I have only visited Montreal when I was little and it was so
beautiful. How lucky you are to live there! I will try to bring my
show POPULAR SEXUALITY to Montreal. See you there!
"I just read this and it was a real eye-opener. It was great I loved
it. I am 17 years old and it's great that there is someone who can
totally relate to how I feel and be sympathetic and
understandäit's awesome. Thank you for writing it. It's very
assuring and inspiring. I only wish that there were more adults
like you around like you. Nikki"
You are very welcome Miss Nikki, you great 17 year old!
Teetering on being grown up and still dividing the planet
between you and adults. So charming, so sweet and you take
"Hello you are quite an extraordinary lady. You are very
grounded in your viewpoints and it is refreshing to have someone
like yourself be so outspoken. I was wondering if you are
involved with or if you have ever gone to a Lifestyles function or
convention? What is your impression of them or your
viewpoint/opinion? Do you have any advice regarding the
I am going to look it up, I think I know who you mean but I
don't want to go off half-cocked! I found them; yes they are
who I thought they were. I don't know anything about them. It
sounds like fun. But I am not good in crowds. The idea of
getting together for an organized orgy is a little too corporate
for me. Still whatever lights your fire. Bear in mind you can
always go and check it out. If it's not fun don't do it. If it is,
make sure to use a condom. If sex is a part of your game
plan. Maybe they get together to talk. Might be as precious as
"Hello, I just want to say that when I first got into Mr. Bowie, it
was the Ziggy period and I am glad you were a part of it,
however unhappy it was for you. I love your work and you are a
great person. I wish you only the best. James Franco"
You are the most charming group of writers. Thank you for
your kind words and No, I wasn't unhappy all the time!
Those 2 particular photos just reminded me of some of the
reasons I was irritated. We were youngsters and I got my nose
out of joint real easily. It's easy to be gracious and charming
about a time when there has been a 25 year interlude.
It's like discussing war experiences. You remember the good
times and the heroism but if you are honest you also
remember you were scared to death. I guess that's why I had
to explain that it was not all easy and fun, my feelings were
hurt because I wanted to contribute, no-one expected me to do
more than I did. I expected it. Often, we are our own worst
enemy. I told about the unhappiness so none of you would
mistake my enthusiasm for ecstasy. Life is never smooth
sailing is it? To have an adventure you need to be delighted
and terrified or it's not an adventure.
"Could you relate to when space colonization startsä.a coed
bisexual crew might be exciting.. imagine the research in the
psychological-psiological-sexual and physical of a mission
dealing in space??? Let me know if you find this
interestingäLost in Space becomes LUST IN SPACE. Eddie
I sure can! Have you seen that great new series Invasion Earth
from the BBC and the Science Fiction cable network? One of
the most interesting things I came across in my research for
Popular Sexuality were the books of that British scientist
Dr. Robin Baker who exposes the fascinating selection procedures of
women to ensure conception, multiple sperm donors so that
they will become impregnated and continue the species.
I have a theory, of course I interrupted my boyfriend's viewing
of the show to chat away about my idea, that when the planet
becomes too overpopulated, we will be culled by another
carnivorous race who has been watching and eying us for
years, waiting for us to get fat and happy and remiss in
guarding the back door and then they'll swoop in and have us
for dinner! Recipe for this thought the cannibal story in Argosy
when I was tiny, X files and Babylon 5!
"Very interesting Angela Bowie. I particularly enjoyed the Indian
perspective that by being "Two-Spirited', we are actually at an
advantage. Yes. Yes! My husband's friends always referred to
me as "the perfect wife". I did all those normal womanly
thingsäwas a great cook, a care-giveräa good wife. And I also
love to watch football, go fishing and play electric guitar. I didn't
buy too many pairs of shoes like other wives, or bitch
incessantly. I was "down to earth" and now I am "coming out"
and they are all shocked to find out why I am "the perfect wife".
The laugh is on them. Thanks for a lovely essay, full of insight
and interesting comment. I enjoyed it thoroughly. Lisa"
See, now if we lived in the same town we could play scrabble!!!
Thank you Lisa for your vote of confidence.
hi angie, my name is alessandro, i'm 27, i'm studying at
university (classical literature, ancient history- in February i'll be
out, hope so) i'm a fan of david. today i spotted on some site
called ziggy stardust or something. although i'm a big fan of the
74/76 era, i appreciate all the career of your ex husband.
i just wanted to tell you that i've always, ALWAYS been very fond
of you. you look so lovely and delicate in the photos by A. Krajnc.
i just wanted you to know how much i like you as a person
although i only know you while working 'behind the scene' with
DB. you are a model to me, of style and intelligence and i think
many girls should be very inspired by you instead than many
bitches i can see on TV and stuff. so, enjoy, have a good time,
stay beautiful as you ever were. my deepest affection and love,
Thank you so much for writing! Dagmar is a wonderful
photographer, is she not? A Kranjc is Dagmar's husband, a
fantastic painter. Here is a link to their site - http://home.flash.net/~akstudio/. Check out Dagmar's
photos of Hair and The Rolling Stones etc.
"Dear Angela, Thank you for your articles, I agree that there is
much gender panic, however being transsexual myself, it seems
it's always straight gay or bi. I know it's confusing to a lot of
people but gender is one thing and orientation is another. I
believe two-spirited refers to people born in the wrong body. I
wear my flesh but I do not see with it. It's sad but people do not
know there are choices. Many do not have the courage but do
have the knowledge. Even with my own situation I feel alone. If I
venture to read a book on the subject, it is written by some not so
healthy people. Sexes and genders are segregated just the way
blacks and whites used to be (and still are) Please WRITE A
BOOK!!!! Would like to hear your thoughts on this subject. You're
beautiful. Just keep on being you. Nathan"
I am, I am! But in the meantime, my buddy, Jayne County has
written a brilliant book-"Man Enough to be a Woman". I am
sure you have already read it but if by some chance you
haven't please do! It's so brilliant and so funny. Jayne's site is
great www.jaynecounty.com! Added to which, well I'll let her
tell you in the book!
"I just stumbled upon your website and I think it's really
insightful. I applaud you for being so open about your sexuality
and I wish other celebrities would do the same. It is wonderful
that you are educating people on a subject that really needs more
attention. I believe that everybody is at least a little bit bisexual
and the world would be a much happier place if people would
just admit that to themselves. Andrea Brent"
You are very kind & thank you for taking the time out of your
day to e mail us that you enjoyed the site.
"Hey, nice job, lady. Human sexuality is not as cut and dried as
the terminally repressed freaks who seem to make up 99% of the
population want it to be. I don't think of myself as a full-fledged
bisexual, but I have to say that I will always have a weak spot
for boys and their cuteness. And that pisses a lot of militant
homosexuals off to no end-it also pisses off a lot of straight
people I know who suffer from a peculiar paranoia that arises
from realizing that I can lean the other way once in a while, the
same thing could happen to them. So I'm always glad to see folks
like you getting upon the soapbox, because someone needs to do
it, that's for shit sure! Rock on sister. SHE"
And there you bloody well have it, as I strap my soapbox to my
back and look for a bus! I am going to send this to Mr.
Funtone and get to work on the sides. If it's not fun don't do it.
BUT IF IT'S FUN; MAKE ME PROUD: DO IT RIGHT!